FIND YOUR NORTH STAR: 5 Steps to Clarity​

 

*A mini-guide to help you cut through noise and reconnect with what matters*

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By Steffen Moessner​​

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Introduction​

These five steps are ones I return to again and again with my clients (and in my own life). Use this guide to get out of autopilot and start steering. Take 15-20 minutes, grab a notebook or journal, and move at your own pace.

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Step 1: Notice the Noise​​

You can’t change what you don’t notice.​

• Reflect: What voices or pressures cloud your thinking right now?​​

• Try This: Write down 3 recurring thoughts that loop in your head. Circle the one that causes the most tension.​

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Step 2: Define It

Get honest about what you value—not what others expect.​

• Reflect: What do you want more of in your life?​

• Try This: List 5 things you care about deeply. Star the one you feel most disconnected from right now. ​​​

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Step 3: Spot the Scripts​​

We all run on stories. Some don’t serve us.​

• Reflect: What belief do you keep repeating that might not be true?​

• Try This: Write 1 sentence you often tell yourself (e.g., "I’m not good enough"). Ask: Whose voice is that really?

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Step 4: Reframe & Rewrite​​

Empowerment starts with the words you use.​

• Reflect: What would I believe if I trusted myself?​

• Try This: Flip one old belief into a new one. Example: "I must always please" becomes "I deserve love even when say no."

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Step 5: Take One Step​

Clarity is nothing without movement.​

• Reflect: What one action could move me closer to what matters?​

• Try This: Pick a small, 5-minute step (a text, a walk, a boundary) and do it today.​​

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Keep Going​!

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If this sparked something in you, let’s keep going.​​​​​​​​​​​​​